Divide or Conquer, Part 2

Romans 16:16-20 NLT - And now I make one more appeal, my dear brothers and sisters. Watch out for people who cause divisions and upset people’s faith by teaching things contrary to what you have been taught.  Stay away from them. 18 Such people are not serving Christ our Lord; they are serving their own personal interests. By smooth talk and glowing words they deceive innocent people. 19 But everyone knows that you are obedient to the Lord.  This makes me very happy.  I want you to be wise in doing right and to stay innocent of any wrong. 20 The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. May the grace of our Lord Jesus be with you.

Proverbs 6:16-19 ESV - There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: 17 haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, 18 a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, 19 a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.

Pastor James Emery White opined that the one passage of Scripture that American pastors and church leaders disobey more than any other in the Bible is found in Titus 3:

Titus 3:10-11 ESV - As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, 11 knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned. 

In recent days, some churches have come to tolerate and celebrate homosexual behavior among members and leaders.  To celebrate what Scripture calls abomination is simply tragic.  Yet God also calls sowing discord among brethren an abomination (Proverbs 6).  When churches tolerate and even reward an abomination that God hates (in this case, gossipy and divisive behavior in the body of Christ), what Biblical and moral high ground do these churches have in condemning the homosexual-affirming churches?  All sins are not equal in seriousness according to Scripture, but aren’t there more New Testament condemnations of the sin of gossipy division among God’s people than that of homosexual behavior in the church?  What do you think about Paul’s command to Titus to excommunicate Christians who have been warned twice to stop their divisiveness and gossip?  Assuming that everything was handled Biblically and with a Christlike motive and manner, would you support a local church that was willing to discipline unruly Christians in the way Paul did?  Even if it was you?  What might a church or even a denomination look and feel like that took unity, love, and one another principles so seriously that they excommunicated after the second rebuke for divisive behavior and words?  What would those churches look like if they obeyed the command of 1 Corinthians 5 to not even eat with Christians who were continual revilers (malicious gossips, evil-speakers)?  Sorta Heavenly maybe?  Do we believe all of the Bible?  Are these New Testament principles truly hard to understand or just hard to actually have the will to do?