Heavenly Bodies: Sex, Part 2

Hebrews 13:4 MSG 
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex. [Literally, God will judge the sexually immoral.]

Singles: Scripture teaches love to be patient, kind, and not self-seeking, how should that apply to the thought of sex before marriage? Can infatuation with a person feel like love yet fail to meet the true, Bible-definition of love? In light of cultural pressures to just have sex, how should I view the fact that spiritual heroes such as Jeremiah, Paul, and even Jesus remained single and celibate? If God celebrates singleness - and celibacy doesn’t kill anyone, do I need to reevaluate my view of singleness? A Reebok study showed that the average person will spend just 0.45% of his/her life having sex - do I allow this subject to consume way more of my thoughts and fears of missing out than is healthy or necessary?

If married: 1 Corinthians 7 teaches Christian spouses to lovingly fulfill the sexual needs of one another, going so far as to say it even prevents satanic temptation. How might I better love my spouse sexually without using guilt, selfishness, or manipulation? Which other emotional needs of my spouse might I first need to consistently meet in order to make sex more fulfilling? (Examples: words of affirmation, more support at home, recreational companionship, open and honest communication, respectful requests, no more angry outbursts, etc.). Do the consistent studies that show married couples having more sex with more enjoyment than promiscuous singles contradict lies I’ve believed about married sex?